just how social anxiety affected my phone experiences…
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how SA always leaves you on ‘first base’ with others…how it has stopped me being able to connect with other people…
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I posted this video in response to a viewer’s request about doing a video on the importance of keeping a daily journal.
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at the hospital im going to i have so far greeted people randomly and introduced myself to select few.. need more ideas please!! thank you in advance!
View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called “Act as If.” When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior. (I PRETEND that I’m an ACTOR, PLAYING a PART).
Research shows that when you “act as if” continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: “I’m queen/king of America!”, or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave.
People will point, and say: “Look at that idiot”. But, you’re probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). It will teach you that, although it isn’t actually pleasant, (EXPECT MODERATE DISCOMFORT) you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: “A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced.” Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don’t go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don’t do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: “I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me”.
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind. Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger. Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people.
Try having a cup of “Tension Tamer”, herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk.
Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as “Fruisana”, from supermarket sugar aisles). Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience “valerian hangovers”. Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in those techniques. 40% of people are fairly suggestible. http://www.hypnosisdownloads/ has many: SEARCHBAR - “social anxiety”.
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at the hospital im going to i have so far greeted people randomly and introduced myself to select few.. need more ideas please!! thank you in advance!
View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called “Act as If.” When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior. (I PRETEND that I’m an ACTOR, PLAYING a PART).
Research shows that when you “act as if” continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: “I’m queen/king of America!”, or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave.
People will point, and say: “Look at that idiot”. But, you’re probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). It will teach you that, although it isn’t actually pleasant, (EXPECT MODERATE DISCOMFORT) you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: “A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced.” Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don’t go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don’t do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: “I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me”.
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind. Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger. Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people.
Try having a cup of “Tension Tamer”, herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk.
Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as “Fruisana”, from supermarket sugar aisles). Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience “valerian hangovers”. Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in those techniques. 40% of people are fairly suggestible. http://www.hypnosisdownloads/ has many: SEARCHBAR - “social anxiety”.
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I really think I have this, but everyone tells me it's all in my head or to get over it, or i'll "grow out of it".
I can assure you that anxiety is not something that is in your head or that you will outgrow and it is not just a phase. I have been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks for nearly 9 years. Some symptoms are feeling anxious and nervous, rapid heartbeat, feeling faint or dizzy, hot or cold flashes, shaking, clammy hands, feeling like you want to get out of the sitsuation, fear of being in public places or around large groups of people
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Dr. Carbonell describes the key to understanding, and overcoming, panic attacks. In this video, he tells a (fictional) story he often uses in his workshops for professional therapists. Dr. Carbonell maintains a self help web site for people with fears and phobias at www.anxietycoach.com
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I found i out i had SAD when i was in 1st grade (by opening a document i didnt wirte with my name on it). I definatley had it really bad backc then because i would freak out and cry if i ever had to talk to someone or someoen had to talk to me; so i never talked. I thought i got over it by now but these symptoms are starting to come back to me now and im 16. I joined a creative writing club where i have to publicly read my poems and i get really nervous, anxious, i start shaking, i feel like throwing up, i get really red and this all happens about an hour before i even have to do anything. Could this have induced or reinvigorated this disorder from me or am i just an awkward shy person? basically is SAD curable, like can it come back later in your life?
Hi, I have social phobia or should I say had social phobia.
I am from the UK but now I live in a foreign country and they’re not that advanced here so I have had to learn how to cure this myself. I have tried everything and have found a few things that actually work so here they are, and hopefully they will help you also.
1) Buy from Amazon or whereever “Cognitive behavioural therapy for dummies” the book. This has helped tremendouslysly as you are able to give yourself therapy on your own without having to go see a therapist (although im sure a therapist can help you also) It helps you to change your thought processes, so you can start attacking the fear and taking the edge off its the same technique that your therapist will use.
2) Take Seroxat tablets, your doctor will give you these, I was taking them for around 4 years they helped alot I was able to face the world again.
3) Realise that the main reason you have this phobia is because you care too much what people think of you. Think about it, if you didnt care so much what people thought then you wouldnt be worrying all of the time that they are judging you.
Mainly it comes down to low self esteem and a fear of authority figures, (by authority figure I mean: anyone you think that is better than you, or someone who it really matters to you what they think ie boss, friends parents, mother in law etc, Or you think are more likely to judge)
4) Try to come to the conlusion that it doesnt matter if someone thinks your weird, strange, or is judging you, SO WHAT???? So you see just as I mentioned, it comes down to the fact that YOU CARE TOO MUCH.
Get that book I mentioned, and start trying to ask yourself questions:
Question: If everyone was judging me and though I was weird, stupid, shy, etc then what would happen? Would it really be the end of the world? You cant control what people think, so you’ll just have to learn not to care about it, once you take away the fear, the phobia with diminish.
Its all down to extreme thinking, you think in extremes and people don’t care really what is happening with someone else, they only care about themselves.You should try and build up your self-esteem to realise that other people are not better than you. Why should you care what they think?
Sit with a pen and paper and write down all the things you can think of that is good about you, or that you are greatful for having. Keep doing it even when you feel stuck, add to it everyday, it’s a great way to improve your self-esteem to realise that actually, I am a pretty great person, and others are not better than me, so why should I give a **** what others think of me.
Another thing I realised, is that while growing up, I had very domineering, critical parents and older sister. I could never say anything right, and I was always walking on egg shells, this has contributed alot to my phobia, as this now translates to other people. Now that I am begining not to give a **** about what my family thinks about me, I am seeing my fear with regards to other people diminish also. So it seems to be connected.
If your having problems talking to people because you dont know what to say, or fear that you may say the wrong thing, realise also, that no body really gives a ****, no one is going to think back to your conversation and judge it. Your the only one who is critising yourself so much, so you believe others will also. You don’t have to be perfect, no one is perfect, and that’s the beauty, just realise that you don’t have to be perfect to be a great person!!!!
If you need further help then just email me.
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I have horrible panic attacks. They make me miserable, and not want to go anywhere because I am afraid I’ll have one in public. They are panic attacks about nothing usually. Anyone else have this problem? What do you do that helps?
Your situation is very common. The fact that the fear of having a panic attack is preventing you from living the life you want, and it’s the cause of further attacks and anxiety. This eBook / Audio set has supposedly had incredible results for over 27,000 people. It’s worth a try.
http://locatereviews.com/1288768082
The website has a lot of information with videos and disclaimers. I think you can try it out for free.
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I have horrible panic attacks. They make me miserable, and not want to go anywhere because I am afraid I’ll have one in public. They are panic attacks about nothing usually. Anyone else have this problem? What do you do that helps?
Your situation is very common. The fact that the fear of having a panic attack is preventing you from living the life you want, and it's the cause of further attacks and anxiety. This eBook / Audio set has supposedly had incredible results for over 27,000 people. It's worth a try. http://www.panicaway.com/index1.htm?hop=TMH11TZY
The website has a lot of information with videos and disclaimers. I think you can try it out for free.
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