Why do I have such bad social anxiety issues?
ByI am 20 years old. I have a job. A apartment. A car. I like to say that I am a decent looking female (I model). But, I have really bad social anxiety! I can't be around big crowds or new people without getting nervous. I never know what to say. I barely have any friends because of this. I've always been this way. Why?
First of all your just a baby.Your only 20 yrs old.You dont have a lot of life experience to draw off of.The good news is your not crazy.People are f@#$%^ up man.You've got good reason to be nervous or anxious.People,even friends, will screw you over whenever it suits them.Try to be comfortable in your own skin and forget about the haters.Most of the people you know now will probobably come and go over the next 10 years or so.After that ,the ones that remain are probably true.By the time you are 30 consider yourself lucky if you have 2 or 3 true friends.Family is what lasts.hope this helps.
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March 17th, 2008 at 12:58 pm
What caused this trauma?
Take care, sweetie!
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March 17th, 2008 at 12:59 pm
when you are in a crowd try to talk casually to people and stay calm! sorry if it is no use!
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March 17th, 2008 at 12:59 pm
I'm going through the same thing. It got to the point where it started to affect my job stuff even.
I've just barely started reading some self-help books on the subject.
Maybe we could help each other out somehow.
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March 17th, 2008 at 1:02 pm
You sound like me exactly! Its funny because when I was little I was a chatterbox and wouldn't shut up if you paid me! Now I recently moved to a new state and know nobody but I can't make friends! I guess most adults go through stages like this. Its awkwayrd talking to new people or being around large groups! Especially if you feel like you have nothing in common with them! I have tried making myself more approachable and a more interesting person so that people will want to talk to me and be my friend. You do this by smiling more and having a nice body language and being open. I also try to make myself do things that are way out of my comfort zone. If you stretch yourself and present challenges you are bound to become more comfortable quicker! And remember that WHO CARES what some people think of you, You aren't on this earth to please them!
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March 17th, 2008 at 1:02 pm
I totally understand. I'm sorry you have it, but it's nice to know I'm not alone. I have bad social anxiety, sometimes I can't even manage to go to a store because of it. There could be a million reasons why you have it. I've tried acupuncture, pharmaceuticals, vitamins, therapy, and right now I'm trying hypnosis. A combo of Hypnosis/keeping a journal has worked the best for me. A journal will help to see if there is a specific pattern or trigger to your anxiety. Look into hypnosis too. It really works.
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March 17th, 2008 at 1:03 pm
Can't answer the why part, but I have the same thing. I used to not even be able to talk on the phone to my own mother. Now I take Effexor. It really helps.
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March 17th, 2008 at 1:04 pm
i am the same way except u are a little better off financially for me its trust i have got out there and let people in my circle and they stabbed me in the back now i am overly cautious. also not alot of money to go to the doctor but when i could afford meds they helped a lot. you should try effexor or paxil.
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March 17th, 2008 at 1:14 pm
First of all your just a baby.Your only 20 yrs old.You dont have a lot of life experience to draw off of.The good news is your not crazy.People are f@#$%^ up man.You've got good reason to be nervous or anxious.People,even friends, will screw you over whenever it suits them.Try to be comfortable in your own skin and forget about the haters.Most of the people you know now will probobably come and go over the next 10 years or so.After that ,the ones that remain are probably true.By the time you are 30 consider yourself lucky if you have 2 or 3 true friends.Family is what lasts.hope this helps.
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March 17th, 2008 at 2:18 pm
Probably just your DNA…Anxiety breeds anxiety and so the more the worry about it the more you experience it. First, I would talk to a Doctor about medication…and then decide that its not so bad to be anxious and instead act "as if" when you get around new people. I have social anxiety as well but I figure that since nobody really cares cause they are too worried about there own social anxiety its no big deal.
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