How can a person with social anxiety make friends?
ByI have social anxiety which stems from being short. When i talk to people i feel they only see my height and won’t want to be friends with me.
While it might seem logical to find people who are closer to your height, that’s impractical given that at any point in time you may have to interact with others, either taller or shorter.
Actually as difficult as this sounds, I’m sure you have qualities not at all related to height, and should use those in expressing who you are. I also think it’s OK to politely remind others that not all of you is "short" in the sense of who you are and what you’re about.
You could also try to develop some friendships in a one on one basis letting that other understand that you have things to care about, share, and also again, try to develop some self confidence at your pace, that creates the obvious fact that you have value and worth, not connected to your height.
That might eventually ease you into a sense that just because you”re standing in a forest beneath a bunch of towering trees, you do have an "Axe".
7 Comments
March 3rd, 2010 at 8:58 pm
Find other people that are around your height! Or think about it and realize that height really doesn’t matter. I’m a pretty short guy people see me no different. The more that you put off the vibe that you know your short and think about being short and how other people think about you being short the more you will send these messages off subconsciously and other people will pick up on them. Some of the most courageous most polite smart and nice people i have known have been shorter then i. It doesn’t really matter how outwardly short you are; as long as you are tall on the inside if that makes sense. The spirit extends beyond shape and form.
I often use the saying
"Whats wrong with being short? We are more down to earth!"
Good luck!
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March 3rd, 2010 at 9:39 pm
My friend is 5′2. he just uses humor and jokes to charm people, and he befriends big guys so no one will bully him…And some short guys…just have that look in their eyes that says "dont mess with me"…and people take them seriously. its all about how you want to present yourself.
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March 3rd, 2010 at 10:05 pm
Think Napolean. A short commander of an army! And that too, so many years back when physical appearance mattered so much more!
Think Michael J. Fox…
theres a site- shortpeoplesupport
It might help as well….
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I have a similar problem!
March 3rd, 2010 at 10:41 pm
While it might seem logical to find people who are closer to your height, that’s impractical given that at any point in time you may have to interact with others, either taller or shorter.
Actually as difficult as this sounds, I’m sure you have qualities not at all related to height, and should use those in expressing who you are. I also think it’s OK to politely remind others that not all of you is "short" in the sense of who you are and what you’re about.
You could also try to develop some friendships in a one on one basis letting that other understand that you have things to care about, share, and also again, try to develop some self confidence at your pace, that creates the obvious fact that you have value and worth, not connected to your height.
That might eventually ease you into a sense that just because you”re standing in a forest beneath a bunch of towering trees, you do have an "Axe".
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3rd year Psych major
March 3rd, 2010 at 11:22 pm
No one cares that you are short. No one is judging you on such a superficial and meaningless attribute. Once you get that, I mean truly get that deep down, you will make friends.
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March 4th, 2010 at 12:02 am
You’re doing it now. Start with a local chat room. Nobody can see how tall you are online.
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March 4th, 2010 at 12:48 am
I don’t think being short has to do with anything making friends. I have a friend who is 5′8 and I’m 5′2. I couldn’t make friends as well but making friends is being social and getting to know them. I know how hard for you to make friends is because you have social anxiety. I met one guy friends through the internet. I know this is dangerous but I have no choice because my parents wouldn’t let me go out. So, I make friends online and I’ve met one friend online and then later on I get to see him in real life.
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maybe this website helps you cure your social anxiety.
http://www.dmc.tv/index.php