Im 14. Going to a party later. Having bad anxiety now.. PLEASE HELP!?
ByIm going ot a bbq later. im freaking out just cuz im rly nervous since i dont kno most of the ppl. i have hung out with some of them b4 but they r all rly close friends and i feel so new :(, idk i am SO SOSO worried. its in two hours. im rly nervous i keep looking at the clock. helpppppppp. also when i try to talk to new ppl we talk for like 30 seconds and then it gets awkward. wht do i do then? :((( ugh
PS i wanna sit with them at lunch during school (which starts in 3 days)
calm down! i’m 14, i’m usually very shy but recently i just decided to not care what people think.
but its funny because once you start not caring and being confident- thats when more people like you, because you are fun to be around. just act like you’re with your friends, they are your friends for a reason: they like you! so just be yourself, and act confident even if you don’t feel it, be nice, include everyone and they will like you 
PS good luck!
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September 6th, 2010 at 11:03 am
Go to the party and make some excuse up to leave if you don’t feel comfortable. Your stomach, head, drunk, etc. You should wait for school to start to really start meeting new people though because then you’ll see people in the same situation as you. And in high school, usually there is maybe one person who everyone knows or something but nobody is popular like it is in middle school and elementary school.
So its not like if you don’t hang out with X people you suck or something.
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September 6th, 2010 at 11:22 am
if your going and were invited, you obviously made some kind of positive impression on them at some point, so think about that, to lessen the anxiety. When you get there and start talking to people, just try and see what you have in common with them, interests, hobbies, etc, what they are in to, what they are talking about. Yeah it can be awkward especially when they are so close. But just take it easy and make the best of it. Good luck, and dont be anxious!
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September 6th, 2010 at 11:48 am
calm down! i’m 14, i’m usually very shy but recently i just decided to not care what people think.
but its funny because once you start not caring and being confident- thats when more people like you, because you are fun to be around. just act like you’re with your friends, they are your friends for a reason: they like you! so just be yourself, and act confident even if you don’t feel it, be nice, include everyone and they will like you
PS good luck!
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September 6th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Stop freaking out, you’re going to feel more nervous if you over think it.
I like to spend a long time getting ready, I feel like putting on makeup and doing my hair is almost therapeutic.
In a little while, go into your bathroom and turn on some music and start getting ready. Sing along, dance around- get rid of all that nervous energy!
When you get there, try to stay in the group. Since you’re new to them, it’s totally understandable to be a little quiet. Listen to what everyone else is talking about, and if you have something to contribute- go for it!
This way, you won’t have the awkward one on one experiences, and you can get to know a little bit about everyone else by hearing what they talk about with each other.
It’s going to be fine! Have an amesome time!
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