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I have social anxiety. I am 18 years old female who is Muslim. People see that I cover my hair, they think I’m a terrorist so that gives me social anxiety. I’m sick and tire of when I’m walking, people looking at me in a scared way. I’m thinking about just dropping out of this college.
Please do not drop out of college because of what you perceive to be a hostile attitude. Perhaps you interpret blank stares as a sign of fear. As a teacher, and lecturer, I can assure you that I have had students who did not cover their hair and yet felt as you do, namely they thought they were being ostracised by others because of the colour of their skin or some other reason. I am sure that your fellow students do not think you are a terrorist. Has anyone actually told you that it is what they believe? Have you no friends you can talk to or relate to, or perhaps a lecturer you can confide in and to whom you can explain your feelings of insecurity?
You do not say what you are studying, but really try to think about your studies in a positive way. You are at college to better yourself and ensure a better future for you and your eventual family. If you see everyone as an enemy, they might feel you are cutting them off and they may be afraid of upsetting you by approaching you. You are then caught in a vicious circle and a situation that perpetrates itself. Try to relax a little, and be smiling open and friendly. It will ease the tension. Perhaps you can take the initiative and approach someone who seems quiet and lonely on your course and you may find they have feelings just like yours, even though they are not wearing a scarf over their head.
Many students your age feel isolated in college, irrespective of their nationality, their colour or their faith, and I can assure this feeling will pass eventally.There are more good people up there than bad ones and you can see from these answers that people are kind, respect your convictions and feel concern for your sadness and isolation. So take courage and do not be afraid of others. They too have problems that you probably are unaware of. These may be the cause of their looking anxious, and has nothing to do with you or your appearance.
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is there any hope for it?
ever since 6th grade i’ve had severe social anxiety. in 4 years i made a total of 2 friends. because im so afraid. i dont talk, i’m always socially isolated. my armpits used to sweat all down my sides making hugee sweat marks throughout the day (i use prescription deoderant now drysol), when im walking or something it makes me really tense because of all the people around me, in class i try to avoid people to look at me.
i try speaking up and try multiple times but the words can just never come out. i cant even count the number of times i just wanted to ask the girl or guy next to me a question a simple question like "whens our test again?" but the words just cant come out i feel a tightened feeling throughout my body&get hot flashes when i try.
when i try talking usually the words come out all screwed up i get so nervous and i have to start over with what i’m trying to say, it makes me even more anxious because i look like an idiot when that happens.
i never thought it was social anxiety because the only cases i hears about it were wayyyy extreme.
i just want to make a couple friends, that’s all i ever wanted. i’m always unheard and not understood. people think i’m a stuck up bitch because i dont talk, but i really truly want to. i want to be included for oncee not stuck all alone in the corner by myself being the shy girl who never says a word. the one time i said something in my science lab group someone even commented "whoa, you talk?"
i JUST told my psychologist about my social problems so she set me up an appointment with a psychiatrist wednesday. which means i’m going on meds. do the meds actually help? is there any hope for me, ever?
I have social anxiety as well. I’ve never had the guts to go to the doctor & seek help. I’m really sorry you are like this but i wanted you to know that i sympathise with you & i understand what your going thru. You must always believe there’s hope. Don’t quit school no matter how hard it gets because you will regret it. The more you isolate yourself the harder it is to overcome this. Believe me!
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